Who is a Spiritual Father? 

What does a Spiritual Father do? 

When is Spiritual Father needed in our lives? 

Is Spiritual Father biblical? 

How many Spiritual Fathers can I have? 

I believe whenever the word spiritual father comes into mind we do ask these questions all the time. Well, by the grace of God I have taken a careful note and I have gotten insight based on the word of God to interpret to you who a spiritual father is and the qualities of a good spiritual father.

A spiritual father is someone who nurtures you in Christ, someone who impact into your life spiritually and see to it that you attain perfection in the Lord. A spiritual father also introduces one to Christ and makes sure the son is fully grown in the things of God.

Ephesians 4:12

[12]For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: The father nurtures the son till he becomes fully matured in the things of God and even to do the work of the ministry. A father grooms you under the power and knowledge of Christ and not by his will nor power. Every earthly spiritual father is entitled to lead a son or child to the Almighty Father God in perfection

 You need a spiritual father in our life. It's important, can someone graduate from the university without a guide?

Well, we all came to this world through our biological parents so someone might have introduce us to Christ Jesus. 

We must therefore sit under their feet and learn till we are groomed. Your pastor who shepherds you is your father, every shepherd you sit under becomes your father automatically whether he introduced you to Christ or not so far as you are still being groomed under his ministry. 

The spiritual fathering topic must be treated well for Christians to know what the word of God says about it. The word of God does not have any phrase "spiritual father/ parents" but Paul the Apostle was the man whom we have read that he called Timothy "my son". This is because it was Paul who nurtured him and impacted into him, led him and guided him in the ministry.

 2 Timothy 1:2

[2]To Timothy, my dearly beloved son: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.

You may have only biological parents to give birth to you so it is in the faith. Christians, should first of all know the difference between fathers and mentors. 

Paul told Timothy, "you may have ten thousands as mentors but remember I am your only father". 

The fact that you love someone on tele, you like watching the person's ministrations does not mean you are a son to that person.

1 Corinthians 4:15-17

[15]For though ye have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye not many fathers: for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel.

[16]Wherefore I beseech you, be ye followers of me.

[17]For this cause have I sent unto you Timotheus, who is my beloved son, and faithful in the Lord, who shall bring you into remembrance of my ways which be in Christ, as I teach every where in every church.

 Christians today we call many ministers fathers of whom we have never even come into contact with, we call people fathers who have not even nurtured us, we cannot differentiate between mentors and fathers. 

Please if you are a minister and you believe anyone you love to listen to "virtually" becomes your father automatically please I believe after reading this message you will get the clarity.

The person who beget you is your real father as the Apostle has stated. We all got the clue from what spiritual parenting is so we have to unlearn all falsehood concerning this doctrine and learn from the foundation which is the one from the scriptures.

 Jesus had his own disciples and John also had his but non of them called the others my own.

We mostly give honor to those whom have gone ahead of us as fathers but truly they are not but it is just an honor. 

Your real father gave birth to you and brought you up.

Those whom you listen to are called your guardians or mentors or teachers but they are not your fathers. Just as we the young ones respect old men or elderly, we called them fathers as a sign of respect even though they did not begot us.

You have only one father my dear, if he truly brought you to Christ and nurtured you.

It was a great warning the Apostle Paul was giving to his own sons in the faith.

1 Corinthians 4:14-15

[14]I write not these things to shame you, but as my beloved sons I warn you.

[15]For though ye have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye not many fathers: for in Christ Jesus I have begotten you through the gospel.



Every good spiritual father cares for his own children. There is no father who doesn't know the son or children. A spiritual father makes sure you are okay both inside out and that becomes his joy. 

It is their prayers and their daily responsibility to make sure you are always closer to Christ and you are even well physically. 

2 Corinthians 7:12-13

[12]Wherefore, though I wrote unto you, I did it not for his cause that had done the wrong, nor for his cause that suffered wrong, but that our care for you in the sight of God might appear unto you.

[13]Therefore we were comforted in your comfort: yea, and exceedingly the more joyed we for the joy of Titus, because his spirit was refreshed by you all.

A quack spiritual father does not know the children and does not even care about them. A quack spiritual father doesn't know the children. 

Jesus knew His sons and He prayed to God that non of them should escape from His care

Job 39:13-15

[13]Gavest thou the goodly wings unto the peacocks? or wings and feathers unto the ostrich?

[14]Which leaveth her eggs in the earth, and warmeth them in dust,

[15]And forgetteth that the foot may crush them, or that the wild beast may break them.

 False Spiritual Fathers are just like the ostriches, they don't even care about feeding you. They leave you somewhere and does what they want. They don't prepare messages to come and deliver it to you. The messages are spiritual meal you must take daily.

Lamentations 4:3

[3]Even the sea monsters draw out the breast, they give suck to their young ones: the daughter of my people is become cruel, like the ostriches in the wilderness.

They don't teach you, they don't call you, when you are sick they don't even bother to call and check up on you.


I have seen and heard a lot of spiritual fathers claiming people as their own and giving them teachings that makes them the men of God to be looked at instead of Christ Jesus. 

We point men to Christ not ourselves, not for popularity, not to count as many as sons or daughters we have and not to make them mental slaves. Paul never made the people mental slaves but always letting them know what Christ has for them and not what he had for them. 

Every good and true spiritual father must always project Christ to you and not his own self. It is dangerous when you are under the feet of pastors who always claim people to know them, follow them alone or like them alone. Every good spiritual father may also tell you to listen to messages and read other books so that you can be well equipped.

1 Thessalonians 2:4

[4]But as we were allowed of God to be put in trust with the gospel, even so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God, which trieth our hearts.

They don't gather you to feed their own ego. Any man who draws you closer to himself to feed his personal ego is not a person you must follow.

Such people can write Messages or preach messages to make you feel they are the ones to take as your everything and heaven is rest assured for you.


Every good spiritual will never seek for your properties. They will not lure to take your small away from you but they even have pity on you, it's their prayer for you to have plenty. 

2 Corinthians 12:14

[14]Behold, the third time I am ready to come to you; and I will not be burdensome to you: for I seek not yours, but you: for the children ought not to lay up for the parents, but the parents for the children.

We have fathers who are very hardened against their own children like the ostriches.

Job 39:16

[16]She is hardened against her young ones, as though they were not hers: her labour is in vain without fear;

Bad fathers rather drives away what belongs to you. This is the reasons why you must really pray and know where you are. You must also study closely, be observant for many acts as robbers. They lure to take your stuffs and leaves you desolate.


Romans 1:11-12

[11]For I long to see you, that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift, to the end ye may be established;

[12]That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me.

It's not all the time that you must call your father, your father must also call you. 

Most at times my mother calls me in the morning to ask me if I am preparing for lectures or even just to ask what I am doing. That's a good parent, a good parent want to hear from you. A good parent also will love to see you since he misses you. Paul said "I long to see you". 

Even when you are falling and you decide to leave the church or stop prayers, they do everything good to reach you but a quack father does not know or even cares not about your whereabouts.


Titus 1:13

[13]This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;

When you have a spiritual father and he doesn't tells you you are wrong when you are deviating from the faith, then loved one you should know that such a father does not love you and he is quack.

Proverbs 3:11-12

[11]My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction:

[12]For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.


 John 15:13

[13]Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. 

Every true father is just like Jesus Christ, he lays down his life for you. 

They are not self-centered but you are he reason why they are alive. They intercede for you, they fast for you, and all what they desire is to see you on right track in the faith. 

Even when things are not going on well with them, they count their hardship as nothing for the sake of your spiritual well being. They are more concern of you.

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